Athletes not featured in the Daily Beast article at the Olympics. The entire piece is an astoundingly creepy exercise in Grindr-baiting , which involves a journalist accessing Grindr in an unlikely setting and … seeing what happens. But the Daily Beast piece, penned by Nico Hines, is a uniquely disgusting and irresponsible entry into the tired genre. Hines entices his often closeted subjects under false pretenses; effectively outs several closeted athletes who live in repressive countries; then writes about the whole thing in a tone of mocking yet lurid condescension. On Thursday evening, the Daily Beast took down the piece entirely. Later, it also published an apology. Advertisement Because Hines is not gay, you might find his use of Grindr a bit dishonest. But not to worry: Grindr is an app for men who wish to hook up with other men.
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There are also shots of Grace and Karen on a plane with earbuds involved. And then there’s Grindr. Yes, Jack is using Grindr, the gay hookup app. I feel like I can get finger Herpes just from scrolling,” Jack says. There’s a gay guy within ten feet from—” It’s Will. What are Will, Grace, Jack and Karen doing back together again in this batch of 16 episodes?
We wanted to cut through the BS.
This fleeting moment of experimentation: I don’t really know how or why I started, but I began watching and getting off to gay porn. The thing is, outside of watching porn, I don’t find men attractive at all. I have never checked out or noticed another man in a real-life situation, but I can completely fantasize about it if I’m watching gay porn.
We went for a short drive and talked for a few minutes and I started backing out so he took me back to my car. We pulled up beside my car and he gave a last shot at keeping things going and asked if I just wanted to try holding his dick, and I agreed. He took it out and I started giving him a hand job, which lasted about a minute before I just went for it and started blowing him. I blew him for a few minutes in his car and then we decided I’d jump in my car and follow him back to his place just a few minutes away.
We got to his house and I got back to sucking his dick on his couch, and he got my shorts off and rubbed my dick some while I blew him. He was really excited to blow me, but I wasn’t the least bit hard and nothing he was doing was making it happen. I was just over it at this point — told him I was sorry but I needed to go, and bailed quickly. I felt bad ditching the guy. He seemed nice enough, but I had my moment of experimentation and realized it wasn’t what I was into.
Apr 30, Yes, women are using Tinder to get laid. Handsome but no bio and all shirtless gym selfies? Dick is abundant and low value.
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For his disturbing story , Hines—who is straight—set up a profile on the gay hookup app Grindr and used it to trick Olympic athletes into chatting with him. He did not tell them he was a journalist on assignment unless they asked and described several athletes with enough detail that any reader could easily identify them. The Beast initially retracted these identifying details, then took down the entire story with an apology.
But Hines went radio silent for seven months, a public silence he broke for the first time on Monday. The article intruded into the lives of people who had a right to be left alone. That fear is all the more acute in some of the countries whose athletes were gathered together inside the Olympic village. For anyone who was left in fear for their safety back home, I am truly sorry. Advertisement His apology will not mean much to closeted athletes whose lives were endangered or to the openly gay athletes who were essentially entrapped then subject to ridicule for no good reason.
But the more interesting question, I think, is whether the internet will forgive Hines. In the seven months since Hines disappeared, his name has become something of a punchline, especially on gay Twitter. His total withdrawal from the public eye, without so much as a word of regret or explanation, attracted a great deal of ironic speculation.
Gay men face enormous pressure to fit into a very narrow view of beauty—often defined on hookup apps like Grindr and Scruff by the groups they leave out: Bruce asked the gentleman out on a date, and after exchanging contact information, he received this message in his inbox: The worst part is that the men you seem to check out are way out of your league. Instead of trying to drum up conversations with me and other guys, you should spend more time losing the fat.
As Pace University professor Dr. Jason Whitesel writes in his book, Fat Gay Men:
Advertisement His apology will not mean much to closeted athletes whose lives were endangered or to the openly gay athletes who were essentially entrapped then subject to ridicule for no good reason.
Matt Moore, a blogger for the Christian Post, writes extensively about how Christianity has helped him to turn away from a gay lifestyle. But, apparently it didn’t help him quite enough to steer him away from Grindr. At first, she questioned if the account could be a fake, but Moore later admitted the Grindr profile was his.
Disobedience to a loving and gracious God. Thankfully, I believe that He forgives me for this disobedience. I believe the blood of Christ covers this disobedience. Homosexuality, Drunkenness, Grace and Redemption. He says that every day he deals with desires, but claims it is worth the fight “because of the working of the Holy Spirit in my heart, I am able to see clearly that the homosexual feelings I have are a perversion of the gift of sex that God gave mankind.
Towleroad says that Moore is “deluding” himself and that his writings are “dangerous to others who may be reading them with questioning feelings. But privately, they often seem to have trouble practicing what they preach. Screen grab of Matt’s Grindr profile, courtesy of Zinnia Jones.
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And “discreet” is quite possibly the best term on these sites. No one knows what it actually means. They can just go a neck-down pic. Sometimes you fuck around with someone. Always a mixed bag. The people ive dated have usually been liars.
However, I’m all for sexual freedom in all its forms.
Click to email this to a friend Opens in new window On my last trip down to sunny LA I was at a terribly hungover lunch with our Cali-friend Hugo who was meeting me for the first time. So, upon hearing this, Hugo informed me about a site made for boys like me: While you can never fully control who uses your site, the men at DaddyHunt have tried to make an environment that accepts all shapes and sizes of gay men.
As more and more men feel comfortable with their sexuality and consequently themselves these days, so to does the look of the average gay. STILL, the option for what you are looking for is at your finger tips. Like the rest of the good chat sites out there, you can search through the litany of horny men based on the body type you want, the age, the local; you can find the exact type of guy you want.
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When guys want something, they go for it, and gay courting lasts about as long as it takes the Starship Enterprise to reach warpspeed. Which, at first, we did. It was enjoyably rough, kinda like crossfit. But with every position swap, a Facebook alert sounded from my phone.
Far worse is the actual damage it will likely cause to real, live human beings—inevitable consequences that Hines blithely ignored.
June 24, We talk to the guys behind the app that’s fighting for your Facebook hookups. Ever find yourself flipping through your friends’ or friends’ friends Facebook photos fantasizing about what it would be like to have sex with them? If so, you’re in luck. No longer do you have to keep your perversions to yourself. Bang With Friends is a Facebook and mobile app that allows you to anonymously pick and choose which of your friends you would like to get it on with. Once you sign up, the app pulls your Facebook contacts together separated by men and women.
Simply click who you would like to hook up with. If the object of your desire has the app and clicks on your picture too, both of you will receive a message notifying you of your mutual interests. If they don’t have the app or you’re not sure if they do, you can always send out an anonymous email through the app with a link to sign up.
In other words, your friend will never know about your true feelings unless they’re interested too. Unsurprisingly, the app was invented by three guys in their twenties while drunk one night. We wanted to cut through the BS. You should be able to break the ice in a safe way and find out which of your friends are down for the night. We’re all in our twenties and it just fits much better with how we view dating, and how dating has evolved instead of how the traditional big sites kind of approach it.
Guy’s Worst Grindr Hookups: We certainly know about the good hookups that happen—we hear about them in graphic detail and eventually go to their wedding. But what about the tricks that were less than magical and in fact were downright vomit-bag-friendly? His profile said he was 33 years old. When I got to meet him, he was clearly in his mid 50s. We talked for a brief moment and I asked him how old he was, and he again said
Unsurprisingly, the app was invented by three guys in their twenties while drunk one night.
Apr 20, 5: A few years ago, when Grindr first came out, I chatted with this hot older guy. We actually chatted for a few days and spoke on the phone a few times before we decided that he could come to my place and we would hang out. So the day arrives and he shows up on time. Looked a lot like porn star CJ Madison. Anyway, so we are hanging out and talking and having a good ole time.
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I count two reasons.
I guess I could start off with the fact that this guy is really cute, has multiple degrees, has a great job, and is a complete gentleman, but if that was it then I guess I could just stop typing now. A year and a half ago is when we became Facebook official friends whatever that means. I had seen him out at the club once or twice and I thought he was cute, but I had never said a word to him. You know that app? Well, last week we exchange our first words…on Grindr. So the next night we make plans for me to come over, watch a movie, and have some dinner.
Cruel Intentions When I pulled into his driveway the next day I got this strange feeling like I had been there before.
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